Does #openssl have a timeout value? I'm not seeing anything at https://www.phildev.net/ssl/opensslconf.html
appears yes, but I still don't know how to set it: https://swarm.workshop.perforce.com/files/guest/robert_cowham/openssl/main/doc/ssl/SSL_CTX_set_timeo...
so, um, where does one get help? https://www.openssl.org/community/
https://maulwuff.de/research/ssl-debugging.html#hdr1 has some good stuff, but I'm still not sure what's going on with this issue.